November 3, 2011
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Notes From a Dragon Mom
Zoe’s Daily Funny:
The same saturday that we went to see the Statue of “Liverty”, Zoe kept getting in trouble that morning. C and I were yelling at her all morning it seemed. When we finally we’re getting ready to leave I had to ask her 4 times to get over to the car door. I picked her up and as I was buckling her into her car seat I said…
Me: Zoe, you’re starting to get into big trouble with mommy right now I hope you know. Mommy’s getting mad.
Zoe: Ok mommy…but you look so pretty.
Me: (trying not to smile I muttered) Ok. Thank you…………….I know.
Clever little geej.My sister, Vietnam (that’s what we call my sister who’s living in Vietnam) told me recently that a friend of hers had like a 6-8 month old baby girl. She recently died of SIDS during a nap. To lose a child that you’ve already known, and met, and loved, and cared for…. I couldn’t even imagine what this mother was going through. I’d feel so…broken. My heart hurt and felt so heavy for this woman, whom I’ve never met, living on the other side of the world. To be a parent comes with so much burden don’t you think. It’s so easy to blame yourself in a situation like that. The “what if’s” and “I should have’s”. I remember shortly after having Zoe (I’m talking days) I was so scared that she was going to die of SIDS I kept hopping out of bed every few seconds. It was like “Omigod! Did she cough?! MAYBE SHE CAN’T BREATHE!” I was up. Then I’d lie back down and then 2 seconds later “DID I JUST HEAR HER GAG?! MOMMY’S COMING!” I was up. Then I’d lie back down and then 5 seconds later “I could hear her breathing before but I can’t hear…OMIGOD SHE STOPPED!” I was up. Like I was driving myself F-R-I-G-G-I-N I-N-S-A-N-E!
So after my sister told me about her friend I never wrote about it till now. This morning I opened my gmail and I noticed an email from my friend Julie. She emailed me an article that was sent to her. I read this and the tears just kept coming. My heart broke for this mother and also made me think about my sister’s friend. To be a mother and just feeling so helpless… There are no words. Just go home and hug your kids a little bit longer and a little bit tighter today.
NY Times Article: Notes From A Dragon Mom
I just fowarded this article to my husband. I wrote:
Me: It makes me feel like maybe i shouldn’t have yelled at Zoe so much this morning about her pajamas
Hubs: Nahhhhhhhh she deserved it.
I will save the “Pajama story” for another daily funny.
Comments (12)
i read that article too – sooooo incredibly sad. makes you appreciate just having happy healthy kids. everything else is just not that important.
That’s heartbreaking!
and LOL @ your husband saying she deserved it.
I was 10 when my brother was born and I drove myself and my parents insane by checking if he’s breathing every 5 minutes and waking up in the middle of the night to make sure he hadn’t died.
i had seen that article elsewhere and i bawled. we really do have to appreciate all that we have.
@Mad_Wife - omg! you were doing that at 10!? are u guys close now?
@PetiteMandoo - Yea, I practically raised the brat haha My mom was 40 when she had him and had post-partum REALLY bad. Maybe that’s why I don’t want kids. Raising a baby when you’re 10 is exhausting!
I read that article too. It sorta of put things into perspective for me.
makes me feel like how long can I hold on to someone before they’re gone. I guess this is reality and helps me to appreciate the people I love.
LOL @ your husband. it’s something i would say! wait…… is that bad…? haha!
anywho~ i didn’t know what SIDS was until i was prego with N. and it FREAKED ME THE FRACK OUT! i used to check up on N even while co-sleeping! and of course it even got worse after putting him in his crib – and his crib was literally right next to me. if he’d sleep through his usual wake up time to feed, i’d check if he was still breathing. i was pretty paranoid.
and the article.,, i cried.. it’s been pretty hard dealing with N going through the terrible two’s with the newborn to tend to. actually E is not really our problem. it’s N. he has turned into MONSTER CHILD. i CAN NOT take him ANYWHERES!!!!!!! but after reading this article, it really makes you appreciate everything you have :’(
What a tear jerker article. Jeez – but seriously, it puts things in perspective. And BTW, you weren’t the only one who was checking up on their child every couple of minutes. I was so afraid that my little one would stop breathing – we had a baby monitor that we would stare at during the times we weren’t in the room checking up on her.
waaaahhhhh so sad…but so loving…wow what a story….that made me tear up…
Thanks for sharing that beautiful article. Makes people realize how precious life and good health is, we should never take our good health for granted. I’ve been following this series called “Medical Mysteries” on OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) about really rare diseases without known cures and it’s so scary how many diseases there are out there. It’s so scary!!!